On Not Inviting People To Your Thing

It can be hard to invite people to your thing. For a lot of different reasons.

I start several months before the Aces Concert each year (it’s tomorrow, May 26 at 7pm – free admission!) letting my students know that the best way for them to get an audience to their concert is to personally invite them.

Here’s how I rank types of promotion by success rate:

  1. Personal invitation
  2. Group in-person invitation (stand up in class)
  3. Group online invitation (Facebook event)
  4. Online promotions (Facebook page/group instagram)
  5. Physical posters
  6. Invitation/announcements by the director

So why are students – why are people! – so reticent to do direct invitations, if they understand these are the most effective?

  1. They are nervous. It takes guts to talk to people about your thing. Especially, unfortunately, when the arts aren’t necessarily as appreciated as other activities in school.
  2. They don’t think they deserve it. Maybe they don’t think they’ve earned a big audience, or are afraid of failing in front of a bigger crowd.
  3. They don’t realize the difference it makes. Performing in front of a big audience is better, but they might not realize how big a difference it makes.
  4. They don’t want to be told no. An absent audience member who wasn’t invited is disappointing, but an absent audience member who got a personal invitation feels personal. It feels safer to avoid the risk by just not asking people.

There are a lot of reasons why we might not invite people. It takes a lot of work to overcome those reasons, but it’s worth it when you have an audience full of people supporting you.

Invite people to your thing!