Normalize Focusing on What You Love

Say you get excited singing vocal jazz, but never responded to singing Baroque or Renaissance choral music. There are two ways to say that.

In my experience, most people tend to focus on defining what they don’t like; “I don’t like singing traditional choral music.”

The second, and superior way in my opinion, is to focus on what you love; “I love singing vocal jazz!”

This is superior for several reasons. First, because focusing on positive things is better than focusing on negative things. Second, because saying “I hate” something can often be disparaging or disrespectful to someone who does love that thing. Third, because giving voice to what you love rather than what you don’t like leaves the door open to you growing to love that thing down the road.

When you describe your preferences, normalize focusing on what you love.