The archetypal larger-than-life conductor demands your respect. Expects it, compels it. Goes into a range if he doesn’t get it. (And it’s so often a he.)
And perhaps this is a functional way to get an efficient rehearsal. There won’t be side conversations with that conductor at the front of the room.
But I couldn’t be less interested in demanding that kind of respect. I’m gratified when the singers I conduct have respect for me as a leader and musician, but I don’t ever demand it.
I do, however, demand respect.
I demand respect…
…for the music we are studying. Respect means approaching the rehearsal of the music with serious intent.
…for the composers who created our music. Respect means doing our level best to honor the vision of the composer.
…for the audience. Respect means keeping the long-term goals in mind, and preparing accordingly to have our music ready to share with our audience.
…for each other. Respect means valuing the time that everyone in the room is devoting to this pursuit.